The Worst Part of Postpartum

When we decided to have a baby I knew that our life was forever going to be different and I was mentally prepared for that. What I wasn’t prepared for, however, is how difficult it would be to master my role as a mother while still maintaining my own identity. 

Before I had a baby I’ve always preached to my friends and family how important it is to do just that, to always keep a piece of you thriving no matter how many kids you have. Now that I’m a mother myself, I can definitely see how it can be so hard to merge motherhood and your previous identity together. 

As a new mother I’m balancing so many things at once. Motherhood, my marriage, my career, my household, my family, my social life, and lastly, my relationship with myself. It can all become so heavy, especially if you try to perfect all of them like I always try to. 

At almost 6 weeks postpartum now, I can finally see that it is impossible to hold on to your previous identity after establishing your new role as a mother. Instead, a new identity must be created. A bigger, more im

portant one; a stronger one, a more intelligent one, a more easy going one, a softer one, and most importantly a selfless one. 

So as I type this at 6am with Mila asleep in my arms and tears running down my face, I’m telling you it’s time... It’s time to unleash the real you, the warrior within you.

Xo,

VK

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